CULTURE & LIFESTYLE
A daughter’s wish for a Barbie doll
Despite their frequent communication on social media, Sumna was shocked to see Meena at the party as the latter didn’t live in the country.
- LB THAPA
A party is going on in full swing, and everyone seems to be busy and engaged. The music is played on a high crescendo, and children are enlivened by the music. They are dancing to the tune of every Nepali and Bollywood song. Young girls are taking photos from every possible angle. A few others are desperately looking for an ideal place to shoot a possible viral video to upload to their social media accounts.
I stood in a corner with my daughter, Aashi, who was busy eating her favourite ice cream. But I didn’t know where my husband was. Possibly chatting with
his friends.
In the meantime, I came across my college friend, Meena. Some 10 years ago, we studied together at college. Despite their frequent communication via social media, Sumna was taken aback to see Meena at the party because the latter didn’t live in the country.
“Hi, Meena. What a pleasant surprise! When did you come from America?”
“I am sorry, Sumna, I could not inform you about my arrival in Nepal. Actually, I came alone to meet my mother. She is sick, and I have to take her to Kathmandu for treatment”, said Meena with an apology.
“Where is your daughter, Ashi?” Meena asked. Ashi arrived shortly after Meena inquired about her.
“I feel bored, Mom. Why don’t we go home now?” Asked Ashi eagerly.
“Wow! Your daughter has grown much taller than I imagined. I only saw you on Facebook, but today is the first time I’ve seen you,” Meena said, hugging Ashi tightly. Then Meena opened her bag and handed Ashi a milky bar.
About that time, Sumna’s husband arrived. “Did you and Ashi take dinner?” asked Dr Abhisekh.
“We are waiting for you. Where have you been?” asked Sumna.
“By the way, meet my husband, Dr Abhisekh.” Sumna introduced her husband to Meena. Meena was freaked out when Sumna introduced Dr Abhisekh as her husband.
“She is Meena and lives in the US with her family. I used to talk about my college best friend. She is here now”, said Sumna.
“Oh, yes. Sumna would always talk about you. I am glad to see you two friends together. Please carry on. I don’t want to disturb you. I will be back after some time”, said Dr Abhisekh, and he walked away.
“I don’t understand anything, Sumna. Your husband is Akash. Where is Akash? Or did you get separated?” Meena charged a barrage of questions at Sumna.
Sumna’s bright face suddenly turned melancholic. Seeing this, Meena took Sumna to a corner and sat on two chairs face-to-face.
“You were in love with Akash, and he loved you just as much. In fact, Akash was so attractive that many girls in college, including myself, admired him greatly. What caused your breakup? Please tell me everything, Sumna,” Meena asked.
Sumna flashed back and began talking about her former husband, Akash.
After getting married, we settled in Pokhara. Akash wanted to take me to his hometown, Biratnagar, but his parents refused to accept our marriage. As you know, Akash belongs to a Brahmin family, and I am a Dalit. Akash tried his best to convince his parents but to no avail. They were adamant and not ready to accept our marriage. I even requested that he leave me and stay with his family, but he refused.
Akash had already finished his master’s degree in business studies and intended to pursue a PhD in America. He finished all of his paperwork and presented it to the US Embassy. After a week, Akash received an email informing him that the US Embassy had contacted him for an interview.
Akash awoke early in the morning and began organising all of his documents. I made tea, and we both enjoyed it together. Meanwhile, our daughter Ashi awoke, sat in her father’s lap, and implored him not to travel to Kathmandu.
“Whenever you go to Kathmandu, you don’t return for several days. I don’t want you to go to Kathmandu once again”, said Ashi annoyingly. Ashi eventually consented to let her father go to Kathmandu when Akash promised to bring her favourite Barbie doll.
Akash took a microbus from Pokhara bus park to Kathmandu. The following day, he had an interview at 3 pm at the US embassy. He called me after checking into a hotel in Sundhara. We talked over the phone for some time.
I prayed to God for his success, and God accepted my prayer. Akash got a study visa to the US. His happiness knew no bounds. He was excited and was going to buy a Barbie doll for Ashi.
I asked him to return home by taking a night bus, but Akash said that the journey by microbus from Pokhara to Kathmandu was so uncomfortable that his whole body was aching badly. He decided not to punish his body anymore and took a morning flight to Pokhara the next day. I did not oppose it.
Here in Pokhara, Ashi was extremely excited and had many questions, and I was tired of answering them. Finally, I gave in and told her that her dad would answer all her questions. Ashi agreed.
After some while, I spotted Ashi on the roof. I went to the terrace and implored her to come down, but she insisted on seeing the plane that would bring her father home. It took a lot of convincing, and she eventually consented.
Before boarding the plane, Akash called and told me he had already bought a lovely Barbie doll for his princess. That was the last time we spoke with each other.
His plane was supposed to land at 10 o’clock in the morning, but it was already 2 pm, and Akash had not reached home. Ashi was desperate to see her Barbie doll. I made several calls, but his mobile was still switched off. Sumna couldn’t go further as her throat choked, and tears began rolling down her cheeks.
“After then, what happened, Sumna?” asked Meena anxiously.
After a little pause, Sumna said, “The ill-fated plane that Akash boarded crashed near the Pokhara Regional Airport.”
“Oh, my god,” Meena whispered in complete shock.
Even after two days of diligent searching, Akash’s body could not be located. However, his severely damaged brown suitcase was discovered. When the suitcase was opened, there was nothing inside but the Barbie doll. I had to lie to my daughter, telling her that her father had to go to America and would return shortly to take us. To persuade Ashi, I gave her the same Barbie doll that was discovered in Akash’s luggage.
No one came to assist me during such a difficult time. My existence revolved around Akash, and his death devastated my world to bits. I had a terrible time. I didn’t get a job and didn’t have enough money to start a business. I am living only because of my daughter; otherwise, I would have died long ago.
To add to my misery, Akash’s parents declared me an unfortunate woman. They even accused me of being the reason for their son’s death. I was absolutely devastated, broken, and fell into depression. I realised I was dying slowly, but I put up no resistance. I rather welcomed death. Then, one day, I consumed several sleeping pills and tried to have an eternal sleep.
When my eyes opened, I found myself on a hospital bed. It was a coincidence that the doctor who was treating me was an old friend of mine. Later, we grew close, and he confessed that he had an affection for me back then. But I was completely unaware of this.
Abhisekh was unmarried. He told me he was waiting for a girl like me, but never found one. Later, when he approached me, I explained my condition to him, and he agreed to accept Ashi as his own daughter.
Dr Abhisekh arrived and broke the tension between them. Meena wiped her tears with her handkerchief, smiled at him, and promised to visit them soon. Abhisekh reciprocated with a smile on his face.
He lifted Ashi in his arms and said, “Sumna, let’s go have dinner.”
CULTURE & LIFESTYLE
First-of-its-kind dog show in Nepal
The Kennel Club of Nepal organised ‘All Breed Championship Dog Show 2024’ at Satdobato Swimming Pool on Saturday.
- Post Report
The Kennel Club of Nepal, affiliated with the World Kennel Union, organised the event ‘All Breed Championship Dog Show 2024’ on Saturday at Satdobato Swimming Pool in Lalitpur.
According to Prabin Chandra Bajracharya, president of the Kennel Club of Nepal, “This is the first dog championship show happening in Nepal with all international protocols met.” Bajracharya has been serving as a canine professional for the past twenty-six years and, since 2005, has been organising such dog shows all over Nepal.
Ujjwal Koju, a member of the Kennel Club of Nepal, said there were around two hundred dogs participating in the show. “Dogs were judged on the basis of their health, breed and how obedient they are,” said Koju. The owners brought their dogs inside the ring and made them walk with a leash tied to them. The judges then observed the activities of the dogs and decided whether to reward the dogs or not. As dogs circled the perimeter of the rings, the
audience clapped to encourage them further.
Two judges checked which dogs met all the criteria. One of them, Dr VS Ravi from Pollachi, Tamil Nadu, India, who is the founder member and president of Anaimalai’s Kennel Club, Coimbatore, Tamil Nadu
and also a member of Native Dog Breeds Speciality Club, Coimbatore. His career began 25 years ago when he exhibited his boxers at the Kodaikanal Dog Show in 1994. “It was my passion for animals that led me to complete my bachelor of science in zoology from Madras University,” he said. He fosters and displays dogs under the name ‘Topslip Kennels’.
The other judge, D Vinod Kumar from Bangalore, India, started participating in dog shows at the early age of 17, along with his brother. He fosters and displays dogs under the name of ‘Sanland Kennels’. Currently, he is the secretary of the Bangalore Canine Association.
Residing in Ekantakuna, Naresh BK and Alina Baskota, who jointly own a unique breed of dog named Neapolitan Mastiff, expressed their happiness at being a part of the show. “Our Michael won the best-of-breed dog award. We are truly happy,” they shared. They also expressed the vitality of such shows, which bring together many dog owners who share similar interests.
There were two rings, and five groups were in each of the rings. Two judges looked at their respective rings. In Ring 1, breeds such as German Shepherd (Long Haired), Neapolitan Mastiff, Rottweiler, Siberian Husky, St Bernard, Tibetan Mastiff, Labrador and more participated. Likewise, in Ring 2, breeds such as French Bulldog, Chow Chow, Pomeranian, Japanese Spitz, English Bulldog, Beagle, Labrador, American Cocker Spaniel, Golden Retriever, Dachshund and others were featured.
The dogs who won an award in their particular category were seen walking around
with a medal hanging around their neck, and their owners were walking alongside them, proudly carrying a token of love. There were also stalls around the complex displaying dog foods and other dog
accessories.
Another proud dog owner, Raj Shrestha, residing in Lazimpat, brought two breeds of dogs, and both were awarded the ‘Best-of-breed’ award. “Coming from such a distance proved worthwhile as my buddies got an award.” he expressed. Out of happiness, he was feeding his two dogs, one of the boxer breed and the other Chihuahua, much-deserved tasty treats.
“We are pretty happy with the turnout, and we wish to do more such shows in the coming days,” said Koju.
CULTURE & LIFESTYLE
Ruth Wilson stirs up trauma in ‘The Woman in the Wall’
In the series, Lorna awakens to discover a dead body in her home and has no idea why.
- ALICIA RANCILIO
In her latest role in Showtime’s ‘The Woman in the Wall,’ Ruth Wilson plays Lorna, a woman prone to sleepwalking and night terrors.
Waking up to the repercussions of her “night behavior” can be a nightmare in itself: In the first episode, Lorna awakens to discover a dead body in her home and has no idea why.
Lorna’s sleep issues are a manifestation of trauma she experienced as a pregnant teen forced to live in a church-run facility—sometimes called Catholic laundries or Magdalene laundries for unmarried and pregnant women and girls and others deemed to be trouble. In Lorna’s case, she was forced to work throughout her pregnancy, and her baby was taken immediately after birth.
Lorna’s life intersects with a detective named Colman (played by Daryl McCormack), who is investigating the murder of a local priest. Initially leery of one another, Lorna and Colman find they each have a history with these institutions.
‘The Woman in the Wall’ premieres Saturday on Paramount+ before its broadcast debut on Showtime on January 21.
In an interview with The Associated Press, Wilson spoke about learning of these Magdalene laundries, her complex thoughts on religion and how Sinéad O’Connor left her mark on the project. Answers have been edited for clarity and brevity.
How familiar were you with the Magdalene laundries prior to taking this role?
There’s been a few dramas like ‘Philomena’ with Judi Dench. Then there was ‘The Magdalene Sisters,’ which was made a number of years ago by Peter Mullan. There hasn’t been a great deal of information about it or dramatisation stories. The last laundry closed in 1996, so, actually, it’s incredibly recent history. I think culturally, Ireland is still in the process of reconciling and acknowledging that this happened. When the pilot script came through, I thought, “This is a really important story that needs to get out there. We need to keep making dramas or stories about this subject matter.”
Your mother has been quoted as saying you’ve always had to have something to fight for and I’m wondering if this project is an example of that.
I’ve always had a sort of thing about injustice. Even as a little kid, if something felt wrong or unjust to me, I would stand up and say something about it or get angry. I think that in my work, I have a responsibility. I’m lucky enough to have a platform to put work out there which might educate people or change people’s minds about things or challenge people, as well as move them or entertain them. I think if I’ve got that responsibility, I should take it seriously and use it as I can.
Before her death, Sinéad O’Connor granted permission for one of her songs, called ‘The Magdalene Song’, to be used in the final episode of the series. She also was sent to a Magdalene laundry as a teen.
She was sent to a laundry or an equivalent of a laundry. She was a bit of a naughty kid. Girls were put into these places for tiny little misdemeanors or for just being sort of outspoken or louder than they should be as girls. She spoke about it a lot. David Holmes, the composer of all the music on the show, had been working with Sinéad producing her last album. He knew about (the song) and asked Sinéad and she gave her blessing for us to put it on the end of the show. When he played it to me, I got goosebumps.
Did this series make you look
at religion differently since these laundries were Catholic institutions?
I’m a Catholic. I grew up a Catholic. I don’t practice anymore, but I’m fascinated by it and the impact on me. I find going to church quite hard these days. I still go with my dad. My dad goes every week and I understand why he likes it; I understand the ritual and the community. There’s a lot to be said for having a community like that. Any religion or any sort of institution can be corrupted. It’s run by people and people aren’t always clear-minded. As long as things are run by humans, they’ve always got the potential to be corrupted.
– Associated Press